My red headed granddaughter |
The wonderful parents |
ah...now it makes sense! |
my mother in law with my neice |
my husband with our darling Kailynn |
Sigh...we waited...and waited...and then the results arrived. We opened it up and it was confirmed once and for all that my father-in-law was not Chinese. His mitochondrial DNA showed a link to several different groups- but Chinese were not amongst those groups. A pointer to North Indian descent seemed to be evident and that plus the stories which had circulated around my father-in-law when he grew up, made us think this could be a possible option.
Now we held answers in our hands....and yet...these answers only opened up so many new questions. How in the world did my father-in-law come into the home of his 'adoptive' parents. Why did they not tell him his real origin? Why had they kept it a secret? The answers did bring some clarity to why certain things happened- like when my father-in-law's father passed away he was not left any inheritance. It always seemed a bit strange but he had thought, "Oh it was because maybe he was not my real father"- but then when his mother passed away and was also left 'out' of the will, this made him curious. Now, with the DNA results in hand, it made a bit more sense.
The DNA results from the paternal line were uploaded on an internet data base this allowed for possible connections. The closest 'cousins' were named "King" and "Galbraith"- the connection was so close that there had to be some link. More questions arose and more research needed to be done. When we discussed the results with my father in law, we did not tell him about the possible surnames we discovered.
He was shocked to hear that he was not Chinese. After the shock wore off, he said, "You know what....when I was a young boy people in my town would say that I belonged to a particular house and I should go there since that is where I was from"- we asked him if he knew who was living in that house. He said, "Of course, a British man."
"What was their name?"
"Their surname was King"
We had found a possible answer to at least one of our questions. In the years since our discovery, we have done more research. We were never able to find any definite links to the mitochondrial DNA. We have discovered few more answers, but it seems this murky soup of DNA produces far more questions than answers. It has been an interesting concoction.
*Original tests were done by ancestry.com
Subsequent tests were done by familytreedna.com
This sounds like something out of a movie or television plot, not real life! Wow.
ReplyDeleteWill your family be pursuing this farther?
We have pretty much reached a wall for now- but we have left our information on data bases which are updated all the time- we tried to follow a paper trail but it was not so easy for Malaysia in the 1940's- I just recently was given an excellent lead by someone and we are going to see where that takes us. It has been 'fun' :) like a detective novel...but one that you write as you go.
Deleteoh that's a lot of work Ms. Anjuli but your hubby looks like Chinese..I hope you'll find finally the answers Ms.Anjuli and oh my my your granddaughter Kaithlyn is soooooooo cute..so sweet..she made me smile..passing by Ms.Anjuli ;)
ReplyDeleteha ha- yes he does look Chinese because he takes after his mom-
DeleteWow! The mystery has deepened!Your narration made it a compelling read!!
ReplyDeleteJust finished reading your post- and enjoyed the trip down memory lane- especially the bit about Nirulas.
Deletei can now breathe....been holding it since the last post. your art of narrating a story always always wow's me :) are you exploring this further? I wonder if it makes your husband or his father question 'who they are' beyond the biological aspect...
ReplyDeleteWe've reached a dead end- but still have left feelers out in case something else pops up- always looking- for awhile my husband was in a 'who am I?'- but he has gotten over that ;) My father-in-law said it helped him understand alot of things from growing up (the feeling different- etc)- so it has actually helped him become more of who he is.
DeletePhew! Its so strange isn't it? All your life you grow up believing you are somebody and then suddenly you are not.. its hard to accept. But at the same time it makes me marvel at the extent technology has grown! Its both a boon and a bane.
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Yes technology can be a double edged sword
DeleteThis is fascinating. I've never been one to explore geneology, but wow. You have a great story here! (Would make a great novel, no?)
ReplyDeleteit is intriguing to explore family connections- ha ha- I actually started on a fictional story about my husband's grandmother (who we now know is not biologically related)- but I'm NOT a fictional writer so I've stopped at chapter 5
Deletewow this is incredible!
ReplyDeleteand the red hair thing -awww you two look wonderful together with your beautiful crop of red :))
the way DNA springs up after a gap into the next generation!!
Yes DNA is amazing at the way it springs up even some few generations apart- my youngest daughter is often mistaken as being a North Indian- and she has only 1/8 in her- but for some reason the features come out prominently.
DeleteGetting to the family roots.. must be difficult.
ReplyDeleteThe granddaughter looks adorable :)
loved your story! It is interesting exploring family roots- only thing you never know what you are going to find- sometimes good- sometimes bad :)
DeleteThat is fascinating and you tell it in such a fascinating way!
ReplyDeleteDid you get my e-mail? I REALLY need a reply, Please.
Sorry I didn't get your email- I did get an email from someone regarding the give away of Casablanca- and I emailed back with my mailing address- but I had not gotten any email from you- my email address is desertstar@writing.com
DeleteOkay I just the email-thank you so much!!!!!
DeleteWow! Really fascinating. I've been wanting to do this myself for a number of years. Thanks for sharing the testing providers, and of course the interesting story.
ReplyDeleteYou should do it- but believe me - it is a rollercoaster ride :)..actually we did the test 3 years ago, now there are so many new (and more advanced tests) if we were to do it again we would use www.dnaconsultants.com they are said to have the most advanced testing and you can just do it in ONE test- it is costly but it is far more specific.
DeleteIts amazing the way DNA results could be sometimes by taking you to the world of unknown surprises. Interesing to read the entire post so astonishing and your grand daughter looks very cute in hair so red like you.
ReplyDeleteYes DNA is very amazing and produces many surprises. Thanks for the visit!!
DeleteYour family is really gorgeous but you are all so unique looking. Fascinating post.
ReplyDeleteha ha- yes we definitely are unique looking- and UNIQUE!! :)
DeleteI read this with wonder......how mysterious and fascinating!!!!
ReplyDeleteUr granddaughter looks adorable.... my kids are always fascinated with red hair. They cant believe that there are people with 'real' red hair;-D
ha ha- tell your kids- it is REAL- in fact, WHEN (did you notice I said 'when') you come and visit with your kids- I'll make sure my granddaughter is here and they can SEE her REAL red hair ;)
DeleteI guess there are many of us with very mixed race backgrounds and mysteries that surround them.
ReplyDeleteThis was a great read and the family photographs are adorable.
just a big mixed up soup we human beings- I've since learned many people who do the DNA tests are surprised by the results- even the ones who thought there were no surprises :)
Deletewow! read the previous murky post, and then went mad searching for the next part.. :-))) Phew.. thank god, I didnot have to wait like the others did.. and atleast we have the surname correct now!
ReplyDeleteand the grandaughter is adorable, a replica of the granny. awwww!!
:) yes- now we know, at least a little bit more than we knew before-
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