On the 14th of Feb 2011, there will be many couples celebrating Valentine's Day. For me, the 14th of Feb. 2011 will be the day I have to say good bye to my husband again as he travels across the world. With all the travel we do, we've never expected dates or days to have too much meaning. A birthday can always be celebrated a day or two earlier or later. Christmas can be celebrated a week later.
Valentine's Day is just another day- because doesn't every day exist for us to show our love and appreciation for each other. A dinner date or some flowers on one particular day in the year is a nice gesture, but it should only be the tip of the iceberg. We prefer the spontaneous gestures throughout the year. Unexpected gifts, words of love, or time spent together mean so much. Maybe we have come to appreciate these impromptu acts more than the planned ones because the planned ones normally never go as planned. Someone ends up in crisis or needs help and we have to scrap the plans we made. So it is much more advantageous to seize a moment when we have the chance.
We determine how special a day is. If we want, we can make every day a special day. As I used to tell my children- "We are going to have an 'unbirthday' today!" They loved making an ordinary day extraordinary and hopefully they will continue to do so...and hopefully I will continue to do so.